I. The first truth: You must choose between your attachment and happiness. You cannot have both. The moment you pick up an attachment, your heart is thrown out of kilter and your ability to lead a joyful carefree serene life is destroyed.
See how true this is when applied to the attachment that you have chosen.
II. The second truth: Where did your attachment come from? You were not born with it. It sprang from a lie that your society and your culture
have told you, or a lie that you have told yourself, namely, that without this or the other, without this person or the other, you can’t be happy.
Just open your eyes and see how false this is. There are hundreds of persons who are perfectly happy without this thing or person or situation that you crave for and that you have convinced yourself you cannot live without. So make your choice: Do you want your attachment, or your freedom
III. The third truth: If you wish to be fully alive you must develop a sense of perspective. Life is infinitely greater than this trifle your heart is attached to and which you have given the power to so upset you.
Trifle? Yes, because if you live long enough, a day will easily come when it will cease to matter. It will not even be remembered - your own experience will confirm this. Just as today you barely remember, are no longer the least bit affected by those tremendous trifles that so disturbed you in the past.
IV. And so the fourth truth
brings you to the unavoidable conclusion, that no thing or person outside of you has the power to make you happy or unhappy. Whether you are aware of it or not it is you and only you, who decide to be happy or unhappy, whether you will cling to your attachment or not in any given situation.
As you ponder these truths, you may become aware that your heart is resisting them or argues against them and refuses to look at them. That is a sign that you have not yet suffered enough at the hand of your attachments to really want to do something about your spiritual radio. Or your heart may place no resistance to these truths; if that is so, rejoice. Repentance, the refashioning of the heart has begun and the kingdom of God - the gratefully carefree life of children - has come within your grasp at last and you are about to reach out and take possession of it.